That Long Weekend Hit Different (And So Did My Inner Narrative)
Jun 01, 2025So… that long holiday weekend? Whew. It was everything. Sun, snacks, possibly some questionable dance moves (no judgment, it’s a safe space here). But beyond the bliss of unstructured time and pretending calories don’t count on holidays, something else happened. Something a little deeper. I got observational. Real National Geographic, people-watching level. And what I noticed? Kinda cracked me open a bit.
Here’s the thing: conversations were happening all around me—parents with kids, couples, friends, strangers who became not-so-strangers after too much sangria—and I realized this pattern. Like, a real-life, recurring theme kind of pattern. The way people speak to others? Almost always a reflection of how they speak to themselves.
And before you roll your eyes and say, “Okay Socrates,” hear me out.
I’ve seen this same pattern in business meetings, in friendships, in the way people parent. I’ve seen kids with more emotional intelligence than full-grown adults, and I’ve seen adults who have clearly outgrown the stories planted in them as children. It’s wild. Like watching a human experiment in real time. Some folks are walking around fully confident, others are dragging around narratives that don’t even belong to them—but were handed to them by someone else’s broken perspective.
So naturally, I’m gonna ask the question that hit me in the middle of my third holiday mimosa:
How do you talk to yourself?
Not the fluffy “You got this, babe” stuff (although, I’m here for that too). I’m talking about the deep, sneaky, under-the-surface dialogue. The stuff you say when no one’s around to hear it. The inner monologue that shows up when plans fall through, when a client ghosts you, or when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror in bad lighting. (Why is it always Target lighting that does us dirty?)
Here’s the twist: That voice? It’s not just narrating your life. It’s shaping it.
Ever heard that saying, “What you put out into the universe is what comes back to you”? Yeah, yeah, sounds woo-woo. But also? Real. And not just in a vision-board-and-vibes way—this is foundational stuff. It’s biblical. It’s philosophical. It’s in every self-made success story and every spiritual text worth its weight in conviction. Your identity—how you see yourself—becomes the lens through which others view you.
And the wildest part? You can change it. The voice. The narrative. The story you’ve been telling yourself since forever. You can rewrite it. No publisher needed. No co-sign required.
It doesn’t matter what your Aunt Cheryl said about your big dreams at Thanksgiving 2017. It doesn’t matter if someone clapped for you or didn’t. People are fickle. That inner voice? That’s your life narrator. And you get to choose whether it’s Morgan Freeman or a grumpy Yelp reviewer.
Now, listen—I’m not saying it’s easy. Or that I’ve mastered it. I’m not out here pretending to levitate on a mountain talking about “just think positive, bro.” I’ve wrestled with that voice. I’ve doubted, second-guessed, and straight-up ghosted my own potential at times. But I also know this: whether you believe in yourself or you don’t—you’re right.
That’s the kicker. That’s the twist ending.
So maybe it’s time to check the script. Maybe it’s time to stop waiting for someone else to rewrite your internal dialogue and start editing it yourself.
Because, in the wise words of the Wizard of Oz (a.k.a. the original coach of inner strength), “You’ve always had it in you.”
And spoiler alert: You really, truly have.
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